Bed and Beyond

I never expected that married life was going to be easy, i have friends who are in broken marriages and i was with them when they were ranting about how bad their relationship was, how they regret their decisions and how much they want to get out of it.  Come to think of it, i was actually even cynical about getting married myself.  Maybe because i came from a broken home plus the friends i just mentioned earlier.  I remember, i even advised a couple of girl friends NOT to get married after telling me their plans.  I was right in some but i was also wrong in others--

I met my husband in 2006 but we started going out when we saw eachother about 5 years later.  Some say it was whirlwind, maybe so since we got married after less than 2 years of going out but i think what most married couples say is true, there is no perfect formula in finding the right person, you'll just know when you're there already.  And that's exactly what happened to us.

Less than a year after, my husband and i argue and fight.  Sometimes over petty things and other times over major decisions.  In one of our fights, while i was talking to my girlfriends about it, i remember her telling me how lucky i am for finding the perfect guy for me.  It's not the fight nor the petty things about him which im beginning to see and dislike that matters, its the fact that at the end of each day, i look forward to spending the night and cuddling with the person who loves and accepts me and my imperfections.  A few nights ago, i was in one of those "senti" moments that while i was watching my husband sleep, it dawned on me how true her words are. Yes, i have complaints about his imperfections but im so damn sure by now he also has seen my flaws.  We're both imperfect people perfect for each other.

It always makes me smile everytime i remember how sweet my husband can be, he can be really stubborn, childish and insensitive at times but every night (at least those nights when we're not fightin), he always wants to snuggle.  We cuddle when we sleep but on those nights when our backs are painful and we want to face the other direction, he would always make sure that our backs are touching.  Before going to sleep, when we are facing each other, he makes sure that my extra pillow is snugged at my back (because he knows that's how i want it).

It always helps to have some time to think and realize those little things your partner does for you.  They say those little things are what matters most especially when you have kids already and get busy with work and all the bigger problems.  I guess im on the right track then, coz right now those things and more never fail to make me smile and love my husband more.